We are all flawed. Each and every one of us. We all do things that we regret or we didn’t mean to do. Maybe we were in a bad mood or bitter about something. Every single person in the world has done something that they wish they hadn’t. Work wears on us. Life wears on us. Sometimes we just snap. We can’t help it. As humans, we are inherently imperfect. We all heard someone say, “Just learn from your mistakes, and don’t make them again.” How many times have you told yourself “Well I won’t do that again” and again find yourself in that situation?
Impulsive choices, lust, greed, jealousy, or just plain dumb actions. We can all look back and feel horrible about something we have said or done.
Flaw by definition (according to google) noun-a mark, fault, or other imperfection that mars a substance or object verb-(of an imperfection) mar, weaken, or invalidate (something).
There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes. It’s how we all learn. Think about it. Everything you have ever done that really bothered you. You remember the bad marks on an important test, a bad break up over something you did, losing about 330 dollars in cash by dropping it somewhere in a parking lot (I’ve done all three). These things you remember to learn from them, and hopefully won’t repeat your own history.
Another thing to keep in mind. Others are flawed too. People will make mistakes and come to regret them later. I’m sure you have had someone hurt you, leave you, push you down, say terrible things to you. Did they apologize? Even if they didn’t I hope you forgave them and tried to see things from their point of view. It doesn’t mean what they did was right, but maybe understanding where they are coming from will help you understand yourself better. They are flawed just as you are. Maybe they are going through something or just have issues that need resolving. It’s better to not hold a grudge and just move forward with your own life.
My advice- you are not perfect. You will do things that you will regret. It’s okay. You can recover. Learn from your own mistakes as well as the mistakes of others. If someone wants to offer advice on a life situation, listen to them. It could really help, and it couldn’t hurt. You want to make certain to love yourself at the end of the day. Life really is short, and time moves fast. Tell yourself that no one is perfect, and there’s just one of you. Learn to love yourself.
-KRB